Special dinners, chocolate hearts, fresh flowers, and cute stuffed animals are thoughtful ways to show others you love and care about them on Valentines Day. But what do you do for yourself? How do you show yourself love?
In this culture of look-at-me selfies and ‘me-first’, instant gratification attitudes it is sometimes hard to believe that the notion of self-love is still foreign to many.
Yet, it is so important to remember that we can often offer more of ourselves to others when we are at our best. So this February try these tips and love yourself for better health.
1. Schedule some “ME TIME” regularly.
It is ok to set time aside and do something for yourself. A bubble bath, curling up with a good book, spa services, a massage, a walk, watch a movie or a sporting event. Do it alone or with some else as long as you choose something that makes you feel good.
2. Practice POSITIVE SELF TALK.
Believe you have what it takes to make positive lifestyle changes and you’ll be surprised at what you accomplish. When people stop negative comments and replace it with “Yes, I can find 20 minutes in my day to go for a brisk walk” or “Yes, I can plan to bring my lunch from home at least 3 days a week” or any other positive affirmations, your behaviour will start to match your thoughts.
3. Seek the type of SUPPORT you need.
Change is hard. Having a supportive person in your life helps make the most challenging times easier. Once you identify the person who is able and willing to support you, be clear about how he/she can help. For instance, most people will have the best intentions of helping you make healthy food choices when they say “Do you really think that’s a good idea?” as you take a helping of dessert. This may be a perfectly supportive statement to some but too others it may feel judgemental and annoying. If there are statements you prefer to hear in difficult times — like when you want to eat because you’re stressed and not hungry or when you would rather not exercise even though you know you should — share your preferences with your support person. You know they want what is best for you but as much as they care about you they don’t always know how they can help. It’s OK to help them help you!
— William Shakespeare, Henry V